If you've had combative conversations with a partner at home, or if you find yourself stuck in negative outlooks or conversation at home, look to see if the conversations go awry at the same place. For example, do you have a habit of sitting down on the couch to talk about your worries about the future? Or at the kitchen table? In the bed before you fall asleep? Wherever the negativity is taking over the most, target that room first. If you are not sure where to start, start in your bedroom. The bedroom is important because we need it to be a calm sanctuary so we can renew ourselves through sleep. The bedroom is a sacred, intimate place - no better place to start than there.
Here's how you can shift the energy of a room (and ultimately shift yourself) in three easy steps.
1. Meditate for five minutes at the same time and same place in the room every day.
Choose one spot in the room to put your meditation cushion. Find a cozy blanket, a pillow or two, and a timer, and create a meditation nest where you will spend five minutes each day meditating. Immediately after you wake up in the morning is an ideal time because distractions are at a minimum. Make sure you perform your meditation at the same time and same spot in the room every day.
2. Light a candle and incense (if you're not allergic).
You can light the candle and incense either before or after you meditate. Lighting the candle and incense before the meditation creates a cozy setup and can help shift your mind out of the low energy funk as you prepare to meditate. Lighting the candle and incense after meditation keeps the calm, positive energy flowing once you finish your meditation and move on to your morning routine. You can also light a candle and incense at other times of the day when you are not meditating to help the room continue flushing out that energy funk.
3. Keep the room clean.
Saucha, often translated as cleanliness, is the first niyama. The state of our house often reflects the cluttered nature, or adversely, the clear nature of our minds. In order to shift away from the funk, start keeping the room clean to reflect the pure state of mind.
If you don't have time to do all three, or want to keep things simple and do only one step, choose step one and meditate for five minutes at the same time and same place in the room every day. Step one is powerful enough in its own right to override the energy funk of any room.